The Dating Files: My (crooked-y) Path

Posted on | April 20, 2012 | 4 Comments

If you would have told me I was going to be not only unmarried and without kids but totally single when I was 33 I probably wouldn’t have believed you. I’m not sure why, I just always assumed I’d be all settled by now. But I’m not. Of course it’s hard sometimes because I do want to meet someone to fall in love with. And I would like to get married and have kids one day. But this time around I want to try and do that with the right person. And I believe I will meet him, I just don’t know when. And that requires a lot of patience that is sometimes difficult to muster, especially for this lady. I make a lot of “dying alone” jokes. And that’s when I have to stop obsessing about the future and focus on how completely awesome my life is.

I’m completely free and untethered. I can do whatever I want, whenever I want to. And that is a pretty effing great thing to have in your early thirties. I have the wisdom, experience and money I didn’t have in my twenties so I am able to really enjoy that freedom. And being along is an incredibly important rite of passage in my opinion because you’re able to get to know yourself as an individual. When my relationship of four years ended I remember the thought of being single again was so terrifying. But now I know I am completely capable of being single and happy. And I love that I know that about myself and I think it makes me much better prepared to be happy in my next relationship.

{image: Design for Mankind // Suit up or die}

My life isn’t following the same straight path that most of my friends lives are. The majority of them have been married for years and have babies or are busy making babies. I would love for that to happen for me someday but there’s no guarantee and I have to be okay with that. I believe good things will happen to me and that I will get the kind of life that I want. And one thing’s for sure, I will have a really fun time doing it.

And with that, happy Friday. xo



4 Responses to “The Dating Files: My (crooked-y) Path”

  1. Jessica
    April 20th, 2012 @ 3:48 pm

    Whoa, I just felt like I was reading my own journal entry. You’re not alone in this situation. I am a teacher to young kids and I can see how I will be better suited for children of my own at this age or older than before in my twenties. As you said, just think of all of the experience and wisdom you can apply to a future relationship and children someday. That’s a huge benefit of making a family later than average.

  2. sarah
    April 21st, 2012 @ 2:58 pm

    hi amy – its your old friend from sydney. i love reading your blog and especially the dating files. i got divorced about a year ago and have been baffled by the dating scene. having been settled down since i was 23, i have no idea how to navigate the facebook/okcupid/text messaging/ no phone calls rules of dating in 2012. i’ve tried okcupid with little luck (i live in sun valley, idaho – tiny mountaintown where everyone knows eachother, renders okcupid useless). its refreshing to read your posts and know i’m not the only one feeling so anxious about my future. (i have a 4 yr old daughter as well)

    forcing ourselves to step back, embrace our freedom, appreciate the present moment, and let the future play itself out – easier said than done but a worthwhile endeavor nonetheless.

    best of luck to us!

  3. Brandi {not your average ordinary}
    April 22nd, 2012 @ 1:13 am

    I adore you. And I’m so very with you on this. I really love where I am right now, even if it’s not where I originally expected to be. There’s something just so awesome about all I can do — and I’ve decided to fully embrace it.

  4. Amy@OldSweetSong
    April 23rd, 2012 @ 2:02 am

    @Jessica – You are so right. And it is important to look at the benefits and positive things.

    @sarah – What a treat to get a comment from you. It has been a long time and I am sorry to hear about your divorce. And don’t get me started on the new dating rules – everything is done by text! It’s insanity. But you said it perfectly, step back and appreciate the present moment. Best of luck, indeed! xo

    @Brandi – Embrace away, my dear! I’ll be right there with you.

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