What becomes of the broken hearted?
Posted on | July 2, 2010 | 34 Comments
I know I’ve been gone for awhile and I apologize for my absence. My relationship with my boyfriend of four years, Anthony, ended one week ago. My world has been turned upside down and I am absolutely devastated. If anything, I thought I would be writing to you of our engagement sometime this summer. But things did not work out how I thought they would. I’m picking up the pieces slowly and trying to process how much my life has just changed. I am thankful that I just wrapped up a freelance gig so I can take some time to try and figure out what to do next. I am thankful to have so many wonderful people who love me and are begging to do something for me. But I am most thankful for my own strength, resilience and natural optimism. I know everything will be okay.
I have retreated to Atlanta for the time being, under the loving care of my mom. And the next few weeks will be about being around people who love me. I’m going to San Francisco tomorrow to see one of my best friends in the whole world so we can laugh and cry and be together. I also have a trip to Ireland planned to see my sis and then two other best friends are coming to see me in Atlanta for our annual ladies weekend. Posts will be spotty but I will be sure to share some of my amazing travels with you.
This was not the ending I had imagined. I poured everything I had into our relationship and to have this be the outcome just doesn’t seem fair. But, then again, life is rarely fair. And it almost never works out in the way you thought it would. But if you can find the strength to roll with what is thrown at you, you have the opportunity to come out wiser and better on the other side. Oh friends, I can’t wait to get there.
(photo via, quote via Gwyneth Paltrow)
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July 2nd, 2010 @ 8:46 am
I’m so so sorry, Amy. You are going to be OK, but I know this time sucks big ones. I am here for you, sweet pea. And your summer sounds awesome…especially the Ireland part! xoxo
July 2nd, 2010 @ 9:30 am
Hey Amy
Im so sorry to hear this, but it sounds like you have an amazing group of women around you which is such a wonderful thing. Have fun with your ladies!
Emily
July 2nd, 2010 @ 9:32 am
So sorry to hear this sad news! Best wishes for your healing. I’ve never met you, but judging by your blog, you’re a pretty amazing gal.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 9:33 am
I’m so sorry to hear that, sweet girl. You are such an amazing, beautiful person! Have safe and fun travels.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 9:44 am
Oh my dear.
I have to tell you that my bf of four years and i broke up suddenly and he completely ripped my heart out.
about a year later i met someone that turned it right side up.
fast forward and i’m no longer a nyc editor but a gal that fell in love with a lobsterman and moved to maine. WHAT! who knows what comes of broken hearts? people always told me it would get better, and though it doesn’t help now, they’re right.
my life has never been more full.
i bet you’ll find your lobster in the future. and in the meantime, god bless girlfriends!
July 2nd, 2010 @ 9:51 am
I’m so sorry, lovely girl. I know it’s hard to hear now, but there’s a reason for this, and you’ll be a better version of yourself at the end of it. Thinking of you. Lean on your mama and those girlfriends.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 10:01 am
Love.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 10:08 am
Thank you all! I wish I could reach through the computer and hug each of you.
Except Marth, I can (and will) hug you.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 10:19 am
O friend, thinking about you.
Sending serious love and thoughts your way.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 10:26 am
*hugs*
July 2nd, 2010 @ 10:52 am
That sucks, and I’m sorry. I’ll be sending good thoughts your way.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 10:54 am
this just made me tear up. i’m so sorry. reading this and picturing that song just made me boo hoo. i live in atlanta if you want to meet up for coffee or go try out a fabulous new restaurant. either way, thinking good thoughts for you.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 12:44 pm
I feel your heart breaking in your post and know that ache all to well. Hang in there you will breath again I promise! Cheers to amazing women that pick us up when we need it the most!!
July 2nd, 2010 @ 1:48 pm
must haves when faced with a broken heart:
*great circle of friends
*great wine
*great knowledge that “this too shall pass”
*great blog readers who are cheering for you
July 2nd, 2010 @ 2:02 pm
Love you a lot. All will be well in time. Though I wish the circumstances had been completely different, your trip to Ireland excites me deeply.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 2:33 pm
Oh, Amy – I’m so sorry! But I’m so glad that you can surround yourself with people you love right now. Just relax and take your time.
July 2nd, 2010 @ 4:29 pm
Amy– so sorry to hear this. There is beauty in hearbreak (although I’m still dealing with mine…), which seems like a ludicris thought, but it’s true. You can’t fully know and appreciate up until you know down. The learning and growing you’ll do in such a short amount of time is invaluable. There is light, and it’ll come sooner than later.
faith.love.grace.
Sounds like you have an amazing summer ahead and endless support– and sunshine!!
xx
July 2nd, 2010 @ 6:56 pm
Girlfriends are ALWAYS your girlfriends. Boys can really suck sometimes. Better to have it end now than after the ring is already around both of your and his fingers. Obviously his path is not the path you are meant to be on…. a new path will emerge for you. Follow it!
Di
July 3rd, 2010 @ 1:15 am
“This was not the ending I had imagined. I poured everything I had into our relationship and to have this be the outcome just doesn’t seem fair. But, then again, life is rarely fair. And it almost never works out in the way you thought it would. But if you can find the strength to roll with what is thrown at you, you have the opportunity to come out wiser and better on the other side. Oh friends, I can’t wait to get there.”
I feel like I should adopt this as my personal mission statement. Thanks so much for your bravery.
July 3rd, 2010 @ 12:21 pm
I’m am so sorry. I’ve been there and nothing beats downtime with family and friends. Sending you a virtual hug and warm Hawaiian sunshine.
July 3rd, 2010 @ 1:35 pm
Oh Amy, so sorry to hear that! I know how you must feel, I’ve been there almost a year ago, and I thought my life was over… but low and behold I managed to come out of it much stronger and happier! You are wise to surround yourself with good friends, and loving family, they will give you strength and help you through it! I read your post and I can say it’s oozing optimism and strength so I have no doubt you will rise up in no time!! Enjoy 4th of July weekend
xo
July 3rd, 2010 @ 2:59 pm
So sorry to hear your sad news! *hugs* I think moms, sisters and girlfriends are just what you need right now – enjoy your summer. You deserve it!
July 3rd, 2010 @ 5:18 pm
Dear Amy, I’m so sad that your heart is broken. You’ve written of him so lovingly on your blog…..I know you must be terribly sad. One of the things I enjoy most about you/your writing is your sunny disposition and optimistic outlook. Your days may feel grey right now, but they won’t always. It sounds like you’re doing exactly the right thing to get though your sorrow. Hang tough!
July 4th, 2010 @ 10:38 am
come to dallas and we shall craft. life…what a frenemy sometimes! stay strong, girl.
July 6th, 2010 @ 9:39 am
Precious one, You are a star in the night sky. You are a perfect princess of joy and wonderment. I hope your trips are so fun and full of hijinx. xoxoxoxox
July 6th, 2010 @ 10:00 am
God bless girlfriends is right! Sorry to hear this crazy news but seriously lady, you have such an amazing outlook on life and you already know the secret: the only person that can make you happy is YOU.
Enjoy your travels! If you want to come over for pulled pork. Just holler. xo.
July 6th, 2010 @ 7:23 pm
Ack, oh no, it seemed something may be wrong after days of no posts. There is nothing to say in these situations, but I’m very happy that you have such exciting trips planned to give you something to look forward to.
July 6th, 2010 @ 10:41 pm
Miss Fergs, you’ve heard all the words of support by now, but have to add in my two cents of you’re awesome!
Also, remembering how you enjoy that Donald Glover, maybe his new (free!) Childish Gambino album now available for downloading – http://www.culdesac-album.com/ – will put a smile on your face!
July 7th, 2010 @ 11:15 am
Amy – I’ve meaning to tell you that I found your blog and I love it. And then I saw this post and just wanted to tell you I’m thinking of you. I would say “things happen for a reason” but that’s the last thing you probably want to hear right now. So instead, I’ll tell you to keep your head up and keep smiling – sounds like you have plenty of people around who LOVE you to pieces.
July 9th, 2010 @ 5:24 pm
amy lady. my dearest internet friend, i am so sorry to hear your news. life is sometimes so much harder than i imagine it to be. hope you are okay and surrounded by adoring friends and family. i will miss the opportunity to sip wine with you this summer–if ever our paths cross, you get a big time hug from me. xo.
July 11th, 2010 @ 9:36 pm
Just found your blog, just read of your breakup. Unfortunately, heartbreak and such sadness is the price we pay for loving- family, friends, lovers, and pets.
But who on earth would give up the joy it gives us? Move on, brave gal, the universe has a lot to offer. All you do is ask.
July 12th, 2010 @ 1:28 pm
i love you
July 13th, 2010 @ 2:14 pm
oh amy! i am just now catching up on your blog. i am so sorry to hear of your broken heart. and i ain’t gonna hand over any cliches (although they are true for a reason), but i’ll simply say that you. are. awesome. and you have so much goodness to look forward to. enjoy your girlfriend time and your travels. your new life awaits when you get back!
July 18th, 2010 @ 11:23 pm
I’ve been reading your blog for a while but haven’t commented yet and I just felt compelled to because I very recently went through a break up with my boyfriend of 6 years. I also thought we would be getting engaged, not breaking up. However, I see that you already have a fantastic game plan lined up with hanging out with friends and family so you are clearly on the right track. I just wanted to say that I’m so sorry and I know exactly how you’re feeling. Also to tell you that being around my girls and my family also helped me immensely so that is hands down the best thing you can do for yourself. I just want to leave you with this quote because I put up on my mirror to remind myself how awesomely strong I am for dealing with all this stuff so I hope you find this quote useful too.
“Anyone can give up, it’s the easiest thing in the world to do. But to hold it together when everyone else would understand if you fell apart, that’s true strength.” - Leo Buscalgia
This is a new chapter in your life and I really hope you find peace and happiness. Best of luck with everything!